An important and responsible step in the life of any couple in love is the decision about the upcoming marriage. The moment when a woman and a man decide to get married is usually called engagement. This is considered a modern European trend. In Russia, in ancient times, everything was somewhat different.
Before the official ceremony, it was customary to arrange matchmaking, a special custom. The young groom went with his in-laws to the house of the girl he had chosen.
After the girl’s family and the bride herself responded positively, that is, with consent, it was customary to accept congratulations on the matchmaking from each other.
Congratulations on matchmaking
We hasten to congratulate our newlyweds on their matchmaking! We wish you an endlessly happy future, unquenchable love, unexpected and pleasant surprises and bright impressions from life together! I wish you happiness, mutual understanding and a joyful wedding!
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Congratulations to the future newlyweds on successfully completing their first step towards living together! We are glad that a positive response has been received, and we hasten to wish great happiness for two loving and ardent hearts. May your lives merge together, may you be inspired for future joint achievements! We wish you harmony and beauty!
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Our dear young people, please accept congratulations on your matchmaking! We wish that this important step will make your life happy and rich, prosperous and joyful, magical and unique. Love and appreciate each other always, good luck!
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My heartfelt congratulations to the parents of our future newlyweds! A great and responsible task has been done; only great happiness and good luck await them ahead. I wish you a calm and fruitful preparation for your wedding, deep and comprehensive love, and energy to overcome all possible adversities. May mutual understanding, kindness and tenderness be with you.
Such congratulations are addressed to both young people and their parents. They may be shorter than toasts, but this does not affect the overall atmosphere of the matchmaking.
Wishes to the groom's parents
The groom's parents take an active part in matchmaking. Initially, his closest relatives were sent as assistants to the groom. At the same time, the parents remained at home.
The man is the head of the family
Therefore, it is extremely important to raise a strong, purposeful and courageous guy. The parents of our groom, Nikolai, managed to do this
I would like to congratulate them on this happy day. Your son made a balanced and thoughtful decision. He took responsibility for the entire family. Thank you for such a strong-willed young man. We congratulate you on your matchmaking day and wish you to continue to enjoy the fruits of your upbringing and rejoice for the family of your beloved son. Today the first serious step in the life of a new family was taken. I would like to congratulate not only them, but also the parents, thanks to whom everything happened. Thanks to the groom's parents for helping the children find each other and unite their union with official ties. Thanks to your instructions and upbringing, the children were able to make the right choice, setting life priorities. Notice how the young people's eyes glow with happiness. But if you look at other married couples, you may encounter an even brighter light. Parents who have invested a lot in raising their child are much happier for you. Thanks to their parents, children have become full-fledged individuals. And now they can only sincerely rejoice and glow with happiness.
Matchmaking toasts from the outside
We walked under the windows, matched the bride. All the fences were covered with: “Tili-tili-dough.” For the young!
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On your engagement day I wish you only happiness, smiles, fun, endless, deep love and a long road together!
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Divide everything in half Joy and bad weather, One for both of you, But great happiness.
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We congratulate you on your engagement and wish you warmth in your soul. So that troubles do not upset you, Soon you will be a family.
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I want to wish that happiness does not end, that what is planned can come true, that everything in life works out successfully, and that you will certainly be lucky!
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Engagement is the first step Towards family life, Towards new discoveries, What? Marriage is soon? This is nothing! After all, two souls stood side by side today.
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You are my prince from a fairy tale, I have been waiting for you, I dreamed about you and cherished my dreams. You are the kindest angel, I am grateful to fate, That I got engaged to you, It’s like I’m with you in a dream.
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Newlyweds, we sincerely congratulate you on the happiest, best hour in your life! We wish you prosperity and joy, a family contribution to the budget in an envelope from us! We want to tell you!
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Congratulations on your engagement, you found each other cleverly, live just as cleverly, and die together one day!
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We believed that this day would come when you would announce your engagement to us. When the shadow of loss disappears in your eyes, And you open your soul to each other.
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My toast to the engagement, Let love not die, But only strengthen growth And allow you to fly in the skies!
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- I drink to your engagement with pleasure, Let there be more fun at the wedding, I wish you to preserve love, respect and live many more years together!
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Congratulations on your engagement day, We wish you warmth in the family. So that every day is kinder, And so that the lights burn in the house.
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Today you gave Declarations of Love! And together you are going to go through life! We are happy to congratulate you on this wonderful day! And no matter what happens, you remember him!
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I will never leave you, I will always be by your side. I congratulate you on your engagement and I want you to be mine!
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- I didn’t imagine you like this, You are the happiest on earth. I'm so glad that you weren't afraid and trusted this dream.
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It is so important in this complex world to find great love! And we need to congratulate you on this. You were able to find each other!
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We congratulate you on your engagement, And we look forward to your wedding, May love in your hearts Live not a day, not an hour, And eternity will be ahead, And you will fly, soar, bloom!
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My toast to an unexpected engagement, but, of course, very welcome, So that your love leads to the altar, For this, friends, I drink with pleasure.
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Tenderness and affection. Joy and happiness. Loyalty, attention and kindness. Be the most beautiful family! May the honeymoon always last!
Half a century ago, it all began not with an agreement between young people, but with a meeting of matchmakers in the bride’s house. All candidates for the role of future wife were always on their account.
How to congratulate you on your engagement in your own words. Congratulations on your engagement
Engagement is a sweet word, Your long-awaited day has come, Your heart trembles with happiness, There is a whole century ahead - so long-awaited!
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You will live it together, friends, be patient and wise, so that life is beautiful, and difficulties rarely arise!
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Two hearts united in one rhythm, The soul found a soul mate, Even if you haven’t gotten married yet, You’ve already stepped on the same path.
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Let the relationship grow three times stronger And promise to cherish each other And never break it, Don’t betray anyone anywhere.
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They will never leave you! Let them illuminate your path and give you joy and love, We wish you much happiness, We will meet again at the wedding.
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I wish you a lot of happiness on your path in life, May the road you follow be bright!
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May your life be beautiful, May there be less evil and troubles. I wish you great happiness and long, bright, good years!
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I wish you sun on earth and a soft blue sky. Love and joy and warmth, And the most earthly happiness.
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I wish that the sun enters your home, that any dreams come true, that joy and happiness walk in single file, and that friends do not get lost in life.
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If the sky, then blue, If a friend, then strong, If friendship, then eternal, And love - endless.
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We wish you joy in life, Wisdom in business, Loyalty in friends, And youth in your heart.
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Our wishes are brief: Health, happiness, less troubles, So that everything is in order in the family And life for many, many years.
Funny toasts for matchmaking
The more original and funny your toasts are at the matchmaking ceremony, the less tense the atmosphere will reign at your meeting. Smile and speak from the heart.
Oh, what a handsome groom! Well, just a sight for sore eyes: the figure of an athlete, the look of an eagle, the mane of a lion! And what a beauty the bride is - everyone really likes such firebirds. Graceful like a doe, affectionate like a cat! Dear young people, let's drink to your wonderful couple!
There is a wonderful fresh loaf of bread on the table, with a salt shaker in the middle. I would like to wish the young people that their home will always be a full cup, so that they do not overdo it with promises and do not overdo it with quarrels. May everything in your family be sweet and smooth!
Trousers with outstretched knees, a robe and curlers on the head, life from paycheck to paycheck, a rolling pin and tasteless borscht... do we really want such a life for our couple in love? No!? So let's raise our glasses so that life is a real fairy tale, and not a horror film!
Refusal and consent in matchmaking
If the parents were not ready to give their daughter in marriage or considered the groom an unsuitable match, their refusal was never direct. Only excuses that no one would accept as a serious reason under normal circumstances. But in this way the girl’s parents made it clear that the conspiracy would not take place.
But if the groom was given a positive answer, then a bridesmaid ceremony was scheduled. On this day, the girl was dressed in her best dress, she herself prepared a meal for the matchmakers and had to go out to the guests with her face hidden under a veil. And the first person who could evaluate the appearance of the future daughter-in-law was the groom’s father.
However, the matter, of course, was not limited to food and a clean house. And if during matchmaking the parents had questions, then it was the matchmakers’ turn.
They asked the girl questions about housekeeping and asked her to do some work as proof. Don't think that the girl had no choice at all. In the event that she did not like the groom, she could leave the guests and take off her festive dress in a secluded place, changing into a regular one.
If this did not happen, and the matchmakers were satisfied with everything, then the groom was brought a drink. Having drunk everything, he admitted that he was not against tying the knot.
Our ancestors had such matchmaking traditions, and we think they were wonderful. And how to properly match a bride in our time, we will find out further.
Toast parables for matchmaking
If you like to tell wedding toasts in prose, you can practice during matchmaking and prepare some interesting parable that will not only cheer up the young couple in love and guests, but will also carry an important and deep meaning.
Once upon a time there lived a handsome young prince in a castle, and he was about to get married. Princesses from all over the kingdom came to his palace: everyone wanted to woo the prince. For a long time the prince chose among the beauties: one was smart, the other was economical, and the third was beautiful. A month later, he finally found the one and only one. And it turned out to be a simple girl Alyonushka from the village. And the prince fell in love with her because she combined all the qualities at once. You, dear groom, are very lucky to have your bride, because she is smart, beautiful and thrifty. Take care of her, because she is a real diamond! Let's raise our glasses to the fact that our prince has finally found his princess!
Once upon a time there was a young couple who constantly quarreled over petty things. They were tired of living in eternal disputes and decided to go to the sage to help them sort out the conflict. They scolded each other for a long time in front of the sage, until he stopped them and said the word: “Tell me, my dears, do you remember the day of your first meeting? What feelings did you have for each other? How long has it been since you hugged tightly and did something nice for each other?” The couple silently lowered their heads. And the sage continued: “If you want to save your family, you should always remember why you once fell in love with a person. Don’t look for flaws in each other: try to see only the good, the things that bring you together!” So let's drink so that our future family never forgets its first bright feelings, and at the moment of a quarrel remembers that we should not see the shortcomings, but always highlight the advantages!
Which script to choose - prose or poetry?
Nowadays, the matchmaking ceremony already looks completely different than in ancient times.
But this is such an interesting and original custom that it’s worth trying. Often the parents of the bride and groom meet only at the wedding. This is a completely wrong decision, because from now on they are one family and should see each other long before the celebration.
Modern competitions
Scenario for matchmaking from the groom's side.
If we talk about the modern interpretation of matchmaking, then it can be combined into one meeting. For example, the groom comes to the bride’s house along with his parents and closest relatives. The mother and father begin to ask the bride's parents to marry her to their noble son.
The groom's parents talk about how good their child is. After the bride's mother agrees, the groom decides to check on the bride. He pours out a handful of coins that need to be swept up. The girl must collect all the money with the help of a dustpan and a broom.
As soon as the girl successfully completes the task, all guests go to the table. This is where the pre-prepared scenario usually ends. The bride's parents set the festive table and invite her to taste delicious food.
In Russian style
How to conduct matchmaking from the groom's side scenario.
Due to the fact that matchmaking is a Russian folk custom, it should be carried out according to all canons. Not only pre-prepared poems and jokes, but also costumes will help with this.
The groom must wear a white shirt with embroidery, and the matchmakers must wear painted scarves. The groom's relatives should not come empty-handed. They bring a loaf of cabbage or apples, a bottle of alcohol and other simple snacks. Thus, they seem to be cordially preparing to communicate with future relatives.
Cool script
If you want a completely unusual matchmaking scenario, you can make a surprise for the bride. For example, persuade a girl to go to a cafe with her parents, and their fiancé and his family will be waiting there.
The man will cordially invite everyone to the table and treat him to delicious food. This is a very good scenario, because it won’t have to strain any of the women. Select the menu you will order from in advance.
Matchmaking wishes in your own words
If you are suddenly asked to make a toast, you can say congratulations on the matchmaking to the bride and groom in your own words.
Our dears! Congratulations on such an important decision - to link your hearts for life and create a wonderful family. We wish you to walk hand in hand with pure intentions and good thoughts!
It’s great that you decided to start a family! A little more - and we will have great fun at your magnificent wedding, and we wish you to enjoy every minute of preparation for this unforgettable day!
Our dears, very soon you will become husband and wife, but for now we wish you to enjoy your new status as bride and groom! Hooray!
If you don’t know how to properly say parting words or how to bless the newlyweds, just try not to skimp on kind words for the young couple who have decided to take such an important step in their lives. Let your matchmaking take place in a positive and sincere atmosphere, so that further preparation for the celebration will bring only joy to the newlyweds.
How does matchmaking happen?
- Since the father and mother did not mind giving their daughter to the groom, they treated the guests to a pie, and often greeted them with a loaf of bread. A joint meal meant that an engagement would soon take place.
- if they wanted to refuse a guy, they returned the whole loaf to him.
- The most successful day for matchmaking is Pokrov (October 14).
- It is not customary to get married on Wednesday, Friday or the 13th day of the month.
- negotiations were carried out standing, as if on the move, so that the marriage would take place as quickly as possible.
- On the way to the bride's house they remained silent, and left after sunset, fearing the evil eye.
There are no clear rules for conducting matchmaking on the part of the groom, but it can take place in two versions: the first, when only matchmakers come from the groom, the second, when the groom also participates in the ceremony
The bride's parents appreciate the attention of the groom; it is customary to give them small gifts. The groom must bring flowers to the mother of the bride and the girl herself.
It is customary to give the father expensive cigars, tobacco or alcohol. If he has no bad habits at all, it is better to check the gift options with his beloved. And she may well ask her father directly. This will not be considered shameful.
Both ancient and modern versions of matchmaking on the part of the groom imply that the conversation is conducted by the matchmakers. The groom must remain silent and answer questions from the bride’s parents. According to tradition, matchmaking begins with the words: “We have a product, you have a merchant...”, that is, guests from the threshold inform about the purpose of arrival. When they have already entered the house, the matchmakers praise the groom, talk about his qualities, education, skills, successes and prosperity. Then the bride's parents talk about her. The young man is asked questions about his plans for life, his fiancee, his attitude towards children, religion, if this is a critical question. Very often, topics are discussed that the bride and groom have not even touched upon. And if all is well, the matchmaking ends with a positive decision from the parents.
The most beautiful wedding toasts are those spoken from the heart in your own words. We have collected several examples in this article.
Have you already prepared the bride price? Read the funniest scenarios here.
Then they already agree on the viewing, when the bride and her parents come to the groom’s house. And there is already a discussion of issues directly related to the wedding day: budget, guests, date and much more.
If you still want matchmaking to be in a folk style, then do not forget that matchmakers should be fiery, talkative and without complexes, so that the tradition does not turn into a boring duty. Everything could go something like this:
- The groom arrives at the bride's house along with his matchmakers. Seeing him, the guests and bridesmaids exclaim: “Matchmakers! The matchmakers are coming! " The girls sing folk songs about love, which are certainly joyful. Funny, catchy ditties are also suitable for this.
Upon entering the house, the groom presents flowers and gifts to the parents and the bride. If it is the first time meeting the parents, then the father is given a gift first. It would be nice to bring a real loaf of bread into the house.
After that, guests are asked to go to the festive table.
The groom's matchmakers report that it would be nice to bring the bride, saying: “You have goods, but we have a merchant!”
The bride's parents praise their daughter, all her virtues and skills.
Next, the groom will communicate his feelings and intentions towards the bride and asks her parents for her hand in marriage. It would be very nice if it was in poetic form.
If consent is received, then the father of the bride joins the hands of the newlyweds and the parents bless them for the union.
Today, matchmaking remains only a tribute to tradition. But this ritual is very important from the point of view that it allows us to clarify many issues in advance. Indeed, at this moment, the elders seem to share their experience with the young, finding out those details that the young may not think about due to their age. And it is much better if life together begins with the consent of all parties.
You can see one example of matchmaking on the part of the groom in the video:
Toasts
Today it is not so easy to meet your true love in this ever-changing world. Such luck really only comes to a select few. So let our groom get a lucky ticket and he will find the woman of his life! Let's drink to those who control such luck - to the parents!
Our life can be compared to an interesting and exciting movie. Today the main role is played by the groom. According to the script, it is planned that his life with his beloved will be long and happy, that their wealth will grow, and their feelings will only strengthen. Let's raise a toast to the bride's parents, who are the creators of the only suitable main character of this film!
Today brought with it incredible warmth, comparable to a hot July day. All because matchmakers appeared in this house, sent for the hand and heart of the future bride. So let this warmth warm everyone present and help parents make the right decision to make their daughter absolutely happy and find her betrothed!
As a rule, most of these toasts are addressed to the parents of the future newlywed in order to appease them and help them agree to the marriage proposal after matchmaking. Toasts in the form of a parable are also suitable here, which also praise their best qualities in an allegorical form.
Matchmaking of the bride, what to say to the groom
The groom should look even better against the background of his matchmakers. He needs to not fall on his face and imagine himself with the best First.
On the other hand, the phrase that the groom can pronounce sounds something like this:
After that, in his story he can touch on such important Where:
Topics: he was born, how he grew up, what kind of child he was, where he studied, what they said about him at school and in the yard. What their parents do in life, what they do. What kind of successes have you achieved?
It is very important to talk about this in detail, but not in a boastful manner, but in a light and non-binding manner, so that the bride’s parents do not think that the groom is a selfish egoist. Also, the groom should tell about the prospects for the girl, so that the parents understand how much they will live on and whether their daughter will be a wealthy wife. The groom can also reveal the secret of his family in a happy presentation, tell how many children he wants, where, children the family will live
The groom can also reveal the secret of his family’s happiness in a presentation, tell how many children he wants, where the family will live.
So that guests don't get bored
Usually, not only the greeting procedure itself takes place in a constrained atmosphere, but also when the guests sit down at the table, it is necessary to help them relax and start communicating. Toasts from the parents, friends and relatives of the bride are very good for this at matchmaking. They, as the owners of the house, start this tradition, and then the guests from the other side pick it up. It would be very helpful if you captured all your wishes on video.
Sample options for table toasts:
- “With all my heart I want to wish that the right notes are always present in your union:
- “Do you know why many families live until their silver, gold and diamond weddings? Their secret is simple - over the years they do not forget to pay attention to each other. Constant interest in the affairs of the spouse, warmth in relationships and understanding in the eyes - these are the main points of family life. Likewise, I want to wish you to be attentive to your soul mate, always love each other, treat each other with understanding in everything and everywhere!”
- to – goodness, love and happiness!;
- si – systemic replenishment of the treasury;
- la – wish for yourself;
- salt – a refrigerator full of food;
- fa - fantastic luck in everything;
- mi - minimum quarrels;
- re – regular vacation together;
- to – prosperity in everything;
- “It is very difficult to find the embodiment of the second “I” in this world. It’s ideal when your woman complements you in everything, understands and loves you. Then you are ready to answer her in kind and even exalt everything a hundredfold. We want to wish the groom good luck, and may his marriage proposal succeed today! And we offer a drink for those who control fortune - for the parents!”
Sources
- https://svadebka.ws/article/tosty-na-svatovstvo/
- https://prazdnikmir.ru/tosty-na-svatovstvo-so-storony/
- https://svadbagolik.ru/article/tosty-na-svatovstvo/
- https://ladyspecial.ru/otnosheniya/on-i-ona/svadba/svatovstvo-so-storony-nevesty-chto-govorit-stsenarij-i-tosty
Competent preparation for matchmaking
This ritual has always been a sign of respect for the parents of the chosen one. In order to properly prepare for the event, you should carefully consider how matchmaking takes place on the part of the groom and what is done first.
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Preparation highlights
The entire initiative is initially in the hands of the young man. After proposing marriage to the beloved and receiving her consent, preparations begin for a visit to the house of the bride’s parents.
Despite the dramatic changes in ancient traditions, preparation for the upcoming celebration begins with the choice:
- matchmakers;
- matchmaking dates;
- gifts.
In order to please the bride's parents and convince them of the worthiness of the candidate, the choice of all of the above should be taken responsibly. Each of the points has its own nuances and requires detailed consideration.
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Selecting matchmakers according to the rules
The main role of matchmakers is to extol the merits of the groom to the betrothed's parents. These people should be cheerful and open by nature, talkative and friendly. It’s good if they have had similar experience and know how to conduct matchmaking on the part of the groom. According to tradition, candidates must be approved by the boy's parents.
Relatives, godparents, a respected family friend, or a professional matchmaker are usually chosen as matchmakers. Sometimes the parents themselves become matchmakers. There are many cases where the groom takes on this important role. Still, the role of matchmakers is invaluable; they will always help, defuse the situation, or even save the situation.
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Features of determining the date for the ceremony
Modern matchmaking does not involve unexpected visits. Such an important event takes place in the bride’s house, so the date must be agreed upon with her parents. When choosing a date, you should also take into account the traditions and wisdom of your ancestors, who know exactly how to carry out matchmaking competently. They believed that the right choice of date contributes to the success of the event.
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Selection of gifts for the bride's parents
Before the event, a young man buys flowers. For your beloved - flowers symbolizing tenderness, for your future mother-in-law - denoting respect and honor. If the bride’s grandmother or married sister will be present at the celebration, then you should take care of bouquets for them.
In order to properly conduct matchmaking and please with gifts, it would be useful to consult with the bride. You can buy good alcohol, an expensive pen or wallet as a gift for your future father-in-law. Mother-in-law - an original carved candle, a talisman for the home, a beautiful scarf, household items.
According to tradition, the groom buys his beloved a ring with a stone, his mother a gold chain. Giving gifts is desirable, but not necessary, it all depends on desire and material well-being. Matchmakers can also bring gifts: deli meats, sweets, a fruit basket, alcohol.
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Nowadays, there are no clear rules on how matchmaking takes place, but there are certain points that should be adhered to.
- On the appointed day, the groom and his matchmakers come to the parents of his beloved.
- From the doorway, the matchmakers talk about the purpose of their visit and talk about the merits of the young man.
- The groom then talks about his feelings and intentions towards his beloved. He promises to protect and take care of her, to be a good husband and father.
- The bride's parents confirm their consent to the marriage. The father joins the hands of the young people, and the mother invites everyone to the table.
- Next, the groom gives flowers and gifts. The rest of the guests also do not lag behind with congratulations and gifts.
- During the ceremonial feast, questions about the upcoming marriage are resolved.
In order for the matchmaking ceremony to be carried out correctly and not turn into a boring and uninteresting formality, you should draw up a script, write all the speeches, words, and prepare all sorts of proverbs and sayings. The groom should also think about his attire. Traditionally, you should wear a classic suit.
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Best days to get engaged
It all started with choosing the right date. The best day for engagement or matchmaking of the year was considered the Feast of the Intercession of the Blessed Virgin Mary, October 14th. Or any other day on the waxing moon. We never got married on Wednesday or Friday; the thirteenth day of each month was also considered unlucky. May, in order not to suffer later in marriage, was also not suitable for a wedding agreement. And, of course, during the fasts preceding the main church holidays, matchmakers were not sent either. All these signs can be used now to make the marriage strong.
The door must be immediately closed behind the matchmakers so that a random person who came would not jinx the matter. The guests sat down at the table, trying to take seats opposite the door - this was the key to a successful solution to the issue. Guests could be treated to whatever was available in the house. But according to one of the superstitions, matchmakers were not allowed to drink, otherwise the couple’s children would grow up to be drunkards.
