IT specialists from around the world work every day in Silicon Valley, creating innovative technologies and earning millions of dollars from them. Hard work and lack of free time often lead to burnout and psychological problems. To have fun and escape the harsh reality for at least one night, technocrats throw parties, famous for their orgies and an abundance of drugs. Participants in such events do not hide what happens behind the closed doors of elite mansions in San Francisco, but not everyone has the opportunity to visit such a place. Eyewitness stories about how the greatest minds of Silicon Valley relax after sunset are in the material of Lenta.ru.
How to Find an Online Sex Party
Many clubs can now be visited by people from different parts of the world.
Manhattan club New Society for Wellness, which founder Daniel Saint calls the "Soho House of sex clubs," has temporarily suspended its standard membership program and is now offering a cheaper online version starting at $10 for a party or $50 for month. New arrivals must fill out a form to ensure their values align with the club's, and then they can attend parties that suit their tastes. The English club Purple Mamba has moved not only its parties, but also trainings and other events to the online space. “By going online, it's become easier for club members to meet people they wouldn't otherwise meet at the club because they could only come on certain days,” says club co-owner Amanda Carroll.
For those who get nervous at the thought of going to a club, albeit online, popular group sex app Feeld has added new features, including group chats for up to 40 people.
The “dark side” of multimillion-dollar fees
Silicon Valley is one of the three largest technology centers in the United States. Currently, there are about three thousand development and production centers for new technologies, including Apple, Google, Facebook, Intel, Adobe, Tesla Motors, Cisco, General Electric, Eastman Kodak and others.
The average income of a programmer in Silicon Valley starts from 100 thousand dollars (7.5 million rubles) per year
Every day, employees of leading companies have to face fierce competition and work under constant stress. In pursuit of success, specialists experience psychological problems and difficulties in their personal lives.
Silicon Valley, USA
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In order to somehow diversify their hard work days, Silicon Valley workers organize closed parties for a narrow circle of people about once a month. And these are by no means quiet gatherings with friends over a glass of wine. The greatest minds in Silicon Valley prefer secret orgies, mountains of hard drugs and an abundance of women.
According to the technocrats themselves, elite sex parties can accelerate personal development and help open up to the world
Most often, meetings take place in mansions located in San Francisco or Napa Valley, on private beaches in Malibu or Ibiza. Among the participants in such events were influential investors, entrepreneurs and top managers of the industry with the biggest names, who, for obvious reasons, took care to maintain their anonymity.
How to organize your own online sex party
If you already have friends who are hungry for new sensations, then good luck! In this case, the most difficult thing for you will be to find the right platform for your party. The Zoom app, once a popular option, has begun cracking down on nudity using artificial intelligence, although the effectiveness of these measures is still in question. Other platforms do the same. Skype also has a strict policy regarding nudity (and swearing - who would have thought!), but these rules are not as strictly enforced.
FaceTime uses end-to-end encryption, meaning the app is more secure, but you must have a Macbook or iPhone to participate. You can also use Google Hangouts, but you need to remember that the account is associated with your Gmail and all the sites you registered with it.
According to Daniel Saint, NSFW is planning to create his own video platform specifically for sex clubs, as he constantly faces obstacles in organizing his parties.
In general, be careful. The more people know about your party, the more likely it is to be shut down. If you choose a platform that you also use for other purposes, you better create a separate account, otherwise you risk joining a work meeting on Monday under the username SexyyyKitten69 or getting a call from your mom in the middle of the fun.
Get ready, get dressed and get out your sex toys
Finally, you have a reason to go crazy during quarantine! Stacey (who asked that her last name not be used) regularly attends virtual parties from her home on the island of Maui, donning colorful lingerie for special occasions.
Participating in parties is more fun with a partner. But if you're quarantining alone, you'll have to settle for good old-fashioned self-satisfaction. Take your dildo collection out of the closet.
If you don't have a single sex toy at home, it's time to fix it. Many sex shops now offer good discounts and free shipping. Don't deny yourself the pleasure.
Respect other people's privacy and take care of your own
If you share accommodation with other people who have not consented to the sex party, respect their privacy. Lock the doors and warn your housemates in advance so that you won't be disturbed for a while, otherwise someone might burst into your room with a slice of pizza at the most inopportune moment.
Standard sex club policies regarding photographs remain in effect. Don't take screenshots. Don't film people without their consent. The vast majority of members will not risk their membership, knowing that the clubs have zero tolerance in this matter. However, it is impossible to provide 100% protection from hackers or creepy types who have found a way to record video.
It's up to you to decide whether you are willing to take the risk or not.
If you want to be guaranteed to protect yourself, just cover your face. A mask will help you create an aura of mystery and at the same time hide your identity. If you are more of a voyeur than an exhibitionist, you can turn off the camera completely. This is a fairly common practice at NSFW events. According to Saint, only about 30% of participants show their face.
Check with the organizer for the rules in advance. Some parties will ask you to leave your camera on to ensure the safety of other participants.
"Eat, consume, have sex, repeat"
In 2021, American journalist and writer Emily Chang published the book Brotopia: Breaking Up the Boys' Club of Silicon Valley. It focuses on sexism and gender inequality in the tech industry in Silicon Valley.
Chang conducted more than 200 interviews with employees of leading companies. One of the parts of the book is dedicated to the “dark side” of Silicon Valley: dozens of clerks who were personally present at secret parties of the technological elite told the writer about how technocrats of the 21st century actually relax.
As a rule, these parties are organized by men. It is possible to attend such an event only by individual invitation from the organizer. Meetings begin late at night, but guests arrive at the appointed place before noon. At the entrance, arrivals are checked by private security, who immediately drive away those who show up without an invitation.
Chang mentioned that sometimes maids are hired for an event because they need to cook food and keep order, but sometimes guests do the preparations themselves, avoiding prying eyes in the house. Most often, at such parties, meals are accompanied by alcohol, and after dessert, guests switch to “heavy artillery” and take drugs.
Then the party guests, who usually include about three times more women than men, have sex. It is known that many men take their wives to such events and exchange them during mass orgies. Chang described such an event as: "Eat, consume, have sex, repeat." She explained that this process can continue for several days in a row.
Emily Chang's book "Brotopia: Exposing the Silicon Valley Men's Club"
Image: Brotopia: Breaking Up the Boys' Club of Silicon Valley book cover
According to eyewitnesses, the most popular drug at these parties is MDMA (also known as ecstasy). One of the young entrepreneurs under the pseudonym Jane Doe, who attended such a sex party, told Emily Chang about her experience. The girl received a personal invitation to a reception at the home of a wealthy venture capitalist.
“At one point I found myself on the floor with four people, two of whom were the owner of the house and his wife. They all hugged and caressed each other, and then the capitalist offered me some powder in a plastic bag. It was MDMA. He said that after the appointment I would relax and I would begin to like their touch,” Vanity Fair magazine publishes an excerpt from the book Brotopia: Breaking Up the Boys' Club of Silicon Valley.
The girl consumed a certain amount of the substance, after which the man asked if he could kiss her. “It was very strange. I said: “Your wife is here, how does she feel about this?” But my wife said she didn't mind. I kissed him, and at that moment I felt that I was taken advantage of. He knew that I had never taken drugs and drugged me on purpose. I became very scared, I got into the car and drove away. I realized that such events are dominated by money and power. This is a big problem because all these people abuse this power too much,” she shared.
Enjoy
Almost every sex event starts the same way: guests walk around, chat and wait for someone to start taking off their clothes. If you are the organizer, it would be a good idea to make sure that everyone arrives on time and once again talk about the rules. This will also help relieve tension.
NSFW puts on a show with pole dancers, while the parties Stacy attends have a pre-party where people can get to know each other. You can also play a game like Truth or Dare? Sometimes it only takes one brave person to get the party started in earnest. Why shouldn't you become this person?
“Ignoring orgies means you are staying away from business communication.”
Entrepreneur Esther Crawford, in a conversation with the writer, said that such events are used among Silicon Valley specialists as a tool for establishing business connections. One day, Crawford went to one of the parties and saw her boss taking part in a BDSM orgy with her work colleagues. According to her, they made eye contact and since then never discussed what happened.
A few months later, at a Google retreat, another colleague approached the woman and began making sexual innuendo. "I know who you are. The other guys said that you like it,” he said. After this incident, Esther resigned from Google.
Previously, in personal conversations with friends, Crawford mentioned that she prefers to be in a polygamous relationship and date several men at the same time. At the same time, acquaintances constantly told the girl how incredibly lucky she was that today in the IT industry there is “such a strong preponderance of men,” and that she can choose anyone.
“Of all the privileges in the world, this would be the last for me. I would rather choose equal pay for the same work of women and men, equal access to capital and power. I would prefer not to be sent to promotions. I'd rather not have to worry about being one of the 23.1 percent of college graduates who have been sexually assaulted. “I would prefer not to be mixed with dirt for expressing my sexuality,” the entrepreneur said.
Private mansion in San Francisco
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Both women and men working in the industry understand how far Silicon Valley is from gender equality. An anonymous investor, in a conversation with Emily Chang, admitted that he could refuse to cooperate with a woman if he had previously met her at a sex party.
“These connections bear fruit if you met your friend's friend while half naked at another party. Men do discuss business matters at events like these and in strip clubs. However, when women find themselves in the same position, they risk losing trust and respect,” he stressed.
Despite this, women complain that sex parties in Silicon Valley are practically the only way to meet potential partners, making it impossible to turn down invitations
“It is very difficult to establish communication with a male investor. But if you show up at a party, you are considered part of their circle. If you don’t go to such parties, you will be considered strange and aloof. It's crazy to them that you're not there. Ignoring orgies means you're staying away from important business interactions. The men there really talk to each other about work and are constantly deciding something,” said one of the heroines of the material, who wished to remain anonymous.
The programmer added that at the beginning of her career it seemed to her that developing business relationships in this way could be very productive and would accelerate her professional growth. “This is where the desire to be involved in such things arises. But over time I realized that this was an illusion. Women shouldn't think of sex parties as the only way to get ahead. Once you get involved in something like this, you can't go back. It’s a misconception that this can lead to serious advancement,” she explained.
Another entrepreneur confirmed the words of an anonymous investor and explained that the current situation is like a vicious circle of injustice: “Women sell themselves to get ahead. Because, let's be honest, meeting someone truly influential can open a lot of doors for you. Many women count on this and get involved in the game. But they don't understand the risks. If you participate in sex parties, don't even hope that any of the men will invest money in your startup. At the same time, if you stay away, no one will know about you. This is a curse for women in both cases.”
Make the most of your technical capabilities
Stacey attended the party with her partners. They placed computers and phones at different angles (and even hung one from a ceiling fan) to give viewers a better view. “The feedback has been great,” she says.
Of course, it can be disconcerting to suddenly see a hundred naked strangers on the screen. Depending on the platform, you may be able to send someone a private message or retreat to a private virtual room (but be sure to check the platform's privacy policy; Zoom, for example, allows the host to view all private messages).
Treat online orgies the same way you treat regular sex parties: behave yourself, don't send naked photos of yourself to other people without their consent, and don't bother them if they turn you down once. You also have every right to block someone who is bothering you (and report this person to the club).
